The New Year is here and people everywhere are making those resolutions. The New Year’s Eve kiss is symbolic of the connection we share and our commitment to one another and our relationship. Sadly though, most resolutions are broken almost as soon as they are made. So this year, I suggest you make a New Year’s Commitment to your relationship. Here are some tips to growing and strengthening that bond between the two of you.
- Say Thank You
Compliment and praise your partner. Be appreciative and say thank you for all the things they do for you. When was the last time you acknowledged all your partner does for the relationship? We get in the habit sometimes of telling them what they do wrong but how often do you tell them all they are doing right? Your partner will feel appreciated and you will find that by paying attention to these things, you appreciate your partner more!
- Have More Fun
Laugh more and be playful with your partner. Put fun on your calendar for this year. Make it a priority to spend time together enjoying life and each other. Find things to do together and maybe try some new things you might enjoy. Get in the habit of sending flirty messages to your partner. Having fun together strengthens your connection.
- Be More Affectionate
Hug and kiss more, holds hands or give a back rub. Make sure you give your partner a good night kiss every night. How about starting you day with a kiss? But not just a peck on the cheek, make it a longer kiss that really shows how you feel. Get those hormones started first thing in the morning so your partner is on your mind all day long. Find opportunities and ways to increase your show of physical affection and watch the sparks fly this New Year!
- Work on Communication
Improve your communication skills. Work on really listening and hearing what your partner has to say. Show interest in their day and the things that are important to them. Talk less and listen more. Show your partner you understand them. Encourage them instead of criticizing them. This will go a long way in improving your relationship. We all want to feel heard, understood and supported by the one we love.
- Be Kind
Practice random acts of kindness. Find small things you can do for your partner on a daily basis. For no reason at all except you love and appreciate your partner, do something nice as a surprise. Maybe bring home a movie they like, make a favorite dinner or go out to dinner, or bring your partner a small gift. These seemingly small things done over and over again make a big difference in our relationships.
This is just a small list and I am sure you can come up with more of your own. Feel free to share your ideas and how they are working for you. Create an Unstoppable Relationship this coming year.
For more ideas I have written a book, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.
Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS
Certified Relationship Specialist, author, speaker