Relationships are something we are all a part of. They bring us comfort, happiness, and unity. Relationships take time and effort. They require give and take to keep them strong. And—let’s face it—sometimes our relationships can cause us grief, stress, or frustration. Why do we endure the stress and compromise? Simply put, we long to feel connected to another human being. We want to feel needed, loved, and cared for. As well, we long to provide that for someone else, which is why we seek intimate relationships.
The ultimate goal of any intimate relationship is to get to a point where there is a balance between friendship and passion, what I call the unstoppable relationship. I recently wrote a book entitled, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passim in Your Life. I wrote this book to share my secrets which have come from my own personal experience as well as what I have learned working with clients for over twenty-eight years. Just what are those secrets? I will share a few tidbits with you in today’s blog.
The first step in creating an unstoppable relationship is making it a priority and making sure your partner knows it! You want to know that the other person is always there for you and that you can count on each other no matter what is going on in the outside world. Your relationship is your safe haven at the end of each day. It is the one place you feel completely loved for who you are. It is important to do small things on a daily basis to show your partner how you feel about them. Find ways to show love, appreciation, and gratitude. It is really about the small things such as small gestures, the heartfelt smile, or the random act of kindness.
When we understand our partner better, how they think and what they need in a relationship, it is much easier to appreciate the differences and navigate the road to that unstoppable relationship. Men and women are different! I am sure that comes as no surprise to you. We all want to feel loved in our relationships, but how we feel loved is different for men and women. Often, people show love in the way they feel love and not the way their partners need love. In general, women need loyalty and reassurance from their partner that they are cherished and wanted. They want to feel emotionally connected. For men, love and respect are synonymous. You can show a man respect by appreciating what he does, trusting his judgement and abilities, and encouraging his successes. The more you understand, appreciate and love him, the more he will appreciate and love you.
Communication can be one of the most effective ways to create and keep a strong, healthy relationship. Learn to ask and not make demands of the other person. Choose your battles, communicate with respect, take responsibility for your feelings, and apologize when necessary. Remember to share all emotions with your partner, not just anger or your frustrations. Share the joy, bliss and love, and what you like, love, and respect about them.
Intimacy and passion are not just for the beginning of relationships. It is even more important as the relationship progresses to make time for passion and romance. Couples who make passion a priority are more patient, appreciative and forgiving with each other. Schedule in time for intimacy in your relationship to keep it a priority. Try adding more physical touch to your daily routine along with more playfulness and flirting. Add an evening ritual of self-care that will help you relax and get ready to spend time with your partner. Have fun together! Sex is one area that you share only with your partner, and it is an important aspect of an unstoppable relationship. So enjoy it.
To learn more about my secrets, visit my website: www.LoriAnnDavis.com where you can read my blogs, order my book, listen to my radio shows, or schedule a free strategy session.
Get started on your unstoppable relationship today!
Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS
Author, Certified Relationship Specialist, Radio Talk Show Host