At our core, we all have a predominate energy that is either masculine or feminine. Generally, women have feminine core energy and men have masculine core energy. In our daily lives as women, we spend a great deal of time functioning in masculine energy. It is part of the role we now play in society and is just part of our lives. I am all for women being equal and doing whatever they want to do! There is a price we pay, though, for spending so much time in masculine energy. Today I want to talk to you about creating more of a balance in your life. I want to talk about reconnecting to your core feminine energy and why this is beneficial to you and your relationships.

This is on my mind today because I am feeling out of balance lately and need a reminder myself.  I have been a single mom now for two years and have gotten in the habit of taking care of most things by myself. I am a business owner, as well, which requires masculine energy to run the business side of things. I am lucky that my business is helping people, which requires feminine energy; therefore, I do get a natural balance in that way. As I write this blog, my two youngest girls are sitting at the table with me doing their schoolwork. I homeschool them as well as working. So I am multitasking, which is a very much masculine energy activity. Yes, I know women are good at multitasking, but it is not always good for us.

I guess now is a good time to talk about what in the world masculine and feminine energy really is. Masculine energy is all about action, doing, thinking, decision- making, analyzing, leading, giving and problem solving. Feminine energy is being, feeling, expressing, intuition, following, receiving. Some examples of acting in masculine energy include making lists, giving advice and accomplishing. The things we spend most of our day doing.  Feminine energy is long walks in nature, conversations, intuition, expressing feelings; soft fabrics, candles, long baths and anything that makes us feel feminine. It is about being in the moment instead of doing.  

Women can easily get out of touch with their feminine energy.  It is important for us to find a way to get back in touch with this side of ourselves. I have found lately that in my relationships, I am too quick to do and to handle things myself and not allow others to help me. I am thinking of giving to them and not allowing them enough space to give to me. This comes from spending so much time being the only one and needing to handle things myself. Now it is time for me to give over some of that to the guy in my life. I love accomplishing things, but it is exhausting without balance. I love being around masculine energy because then I tap into my feminine energy and I feel “at home.” I relax and am able to just be and receive. It rejuvenates me!  It also creates great passion in my relationship. No one has to tell you how to be feminine. You already are inside. It is a matter of tapping into this energy and finding what works for you. What do you need to do to feel more feminine?

When we are in that energy, we help men to feel and to get in touch with their heart. It is important for us to be vulnerable and open with our guy so he can feel comfortable enough to share his emotions and feelings. Men cannot connect with us when we are in our head instead of our heart. It is important for us to give up some control and stop managing, controlling, and over giving in our relationships. This causes men to feel disrespected, and it hurts the relationship. It takes courage to be feminine and give up this control. It is important to remember femininity is vulnerable but not weak, and it takes courage to be vulnerable. Now I am not suggesting that we have no say in the relationship or that we act this way all the time. I am suggesting that there is a balance we need to find between doing and being.  

It is this difference in energy, this polarity that causes the spark in relationships. This is how we keep the passion alive and find balance for ourselves. It is sexy to be around masculine energy that is powerful and assertive for us. Men want to do for us and please us if we will let them!

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

Certified Relationship Specialist


About Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

As a certified relationship specialist ,my primary goal is to help empower individuals and couples so they can live richer, fuller, happier lives. I have a masters degree in clinical psychology. I am a certified relationship specialist in Charlotte, NC. I do individual sessions over the phone and teach workshops for couples and singles locally. I am also the host of the "Ask Lori" radio show on If you are struggling to find happiness in your relationship, or if you would like to attract and keep your ideal partner, I can help. I work with clients who are struggling to find happiness in their relationships. They would like to have better communication and to feel more understood. They would also like to experience more passion in their relationship. I have learned through my education and my own life's journey, what the keys to a successful, unstoppable relationship are. I will motivate you, inspire you, teach you, and coach you every step of the way. These techniques have made such a positive impact on my life and my clients that I can't wait to share them with you.

2 responses »

  1. Kath says:

    Excellent point here. We have come so far in our liberation as women that we often find ourselves at the other (masculine) end. It is such a strong, endorphin-like energy. This is a great reminder to be more conscious about when to choose masculine energy and when to ignite the feminine energy. Balance is definitely the key. Thanks for the reminder.

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