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Lori Ann Davis, MA,CRS

Certified Relationship Specialist

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Are these dating mistakes keeping you single?

 

Dating can be daunting, especially in the beginning. How you handle yourself can make a difference in whether you get a chance for a relationship or not. You want to have time to get to know the other person to decide if he/she is someone you might be interested in. How many times have you thought this might be “the one” only to not hear back from them after a date or two? What went wrong? canstockphoto33609027

Could it be that you are making one or more of these mistakes?

  1. Some singles are over guarded when it comes to dating. They might be afraid of repeating past mistakes or afraid of having a bad dating experience. This stops you for sharing enough for the other person to be interested in another date.
  2. The opposite can happen as well. You share too much information too soon. It is good to keep some mystery so they want to learn more about you. Also keep in mind that some things are just not appropriate to share in the beginning of a relationship.
  3. Have you ever gone on a date and focused too much on the details? There is a danger in overthinking things on a date. Try to just have fun and get to know a little about the other person. Just because they do not make the best first impression, doesn’t mean they might not be the right one. You might want to give the person another date or two before making a decision.
  4. Your date feels more like an interview than a social event. Be really careful about dating with a list of qualities you are looking for. If you have read any of my other posts, you have heard me talk about looking for qualities of a relationship and not a specific person. You might just miss a wonderful match by not being open enough in your search.
  5. Have you ever ended a relationship and realized after there were red flags from early on, but you ignored them? I want you to give him/her enough of a chance while still being aware of those red flags. Never try to force a relationship that doesn’t feel right. Trust your intuition.
  6. Moving too fast too soon is another mistake some people make. They start planning future events and trips too early in the dating process. Taking things slower is a better idea. Avoid the temptation to become an instant couple.
  7. Over giving or trying too hard is another dating mistake. You really like him/her and want them to like you back! So you make yourself over available, change your schedule to meet theirs, give up your life and friends, and over give of yourself or your time. It is important to keep your life and activities while you are dating. Make room for someone new, but do not give up your life for them.
  8. When you are on a date, remember to engage the other person. Be interested in them. Your goal is to find out what you have in common, what you like about them, and what makes them interesting. Leave your date feeling good about the experience, even if they are not the right one for you. Try this approach instead of going on dates looking for what is wrong with the other person.
  9. Having sex too soon is another mistake. I suggest you wait before having sex until you know more about the other person and have a better idea if they really are someone you see as a potential partner. If you choose to have sex before then, make sure you both agree on what that means to the relationship.

The first few dates can be awkward, and it is difficult to know exactly how to act. Try to be yourself and put your best foot forward to make a good impression. Take things slow, and get to know the other person and let them get to know you. If you have a more casual attitude, it will take some of the pressure off both of you. Have fun with the dating process, enjoy getting to know new people, and you will find that right one for you in time.

If I can help, contact me to schedule a complimentary strategy session.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

Certified Relationship Specialist

http://www.lorianndavis.com

Compatibility is Overrated

canstockphoto4561624In my work with singles and couples, the subject of commonalities comes up often. Singles have a list of things they are looking for in a partner. Couples argue because they do not see eye- to- eye. Some people believe that in order to be compatible you have to have a lot in common. Others believe that opposites attract and that makes a good relationship.

Personally, I do not believe that compatibility is all that important in a relationship. Yes, you do need to have the important things in common. Similar life goals, values, and mutual respect are the building blocks of a good relationship and are essential. Where people get in trouble, I believe, is thinking they need to have a certain amount in common for the relationship work.

I have had the opposite experience in my relationships. My husband and I are different in many ways! We have different interests and ways of doing things. We also have different personalities; but we get along very well. I also do not believe our success is based on our differences. I think we get along because we have the same basic relationship goals and values. We respect each other’s differences and enjoy finding things to do together.

Some of the online dating sites base their suggested matches on commonalities. My personal belief is that you are better off looking beyond those commonalities. There is little evidence that sharing interests with someone makes for a better relationship. Differences can spice up, add excitement to, or add balance in a relationship.

At some point, you and your partner will disagree. You will have different viewpoints, ideas, and ways of doing things. What is important is to feel loved and to love each other. As long as you connect on enough levels and can accept each other’s differences, you have the basis for a great relationship. Focus more on the ways you are compatible, appreciate each other, support each other, and stay committed to the relationship.

We are each unique individuals and need to be responsible for our own happiness. When you have a life you love, then you are able to share that with your partner. You might share a lot of things or a few special ones. Each couple should create a bond that is right for their relationship.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

Certified Relationship Specialist

www.lorianndavis.com

How to get past the first date

“Help, my relationships don’t move forward past the first few dates. I find it hard to even find someone to date.”

canstockphoto0878731This is a common theme with the women I talk to in my coaching practice. It can be frustrating when you are trying to date and you aren’t making any progress. Your self-esteem can be hurt, which makes it harder to get out there and even try. Most singles have a desire to find a partner and create a life with someone special. In order to do that, you have to date. Today’s blog is designed to get you out there so you can find that someone special.

Let’s start with some tips to help you get that first date or second date.

Broaden Your Horizons

You may have to look in different places in order to meet more men or to meet more eligible men. It might finally be time to consider on-line dating, join a new group, or ask your friends for introductions. If you are on-line, it might be time to overhaul your profile or start some conversations with men you might normally not talk to. If you are meeting men, on-line or in person, but no one you are interested in dating; it might be time to get to know some of these men a little better. Are you going out on dates looking for things that are wrong with the men or are you dating looking for commonalities? Sometimes it takes more than one or two dates to really get to know the other person enough to make a decision. It took me four dates before I was sure I wanted to keep dating my husband. I sure am glad I gave him a chance!  Are you giving your dates enough of a chance?

Core Values & Deal Breakers

Be clear on your core relationship values and deal breakers. What are the essential elements of a relationship that you must have in order to be happy? What are your deal breakers? If you have a long list, then it might be time to take a closer look. If you are unsure of what your core relationship values are, it is time to find out. Are you being realistic about your expectations? Never settle when it comes to your core values but it is ok to settle in with someone who is not perfect but could be your perfect match. If you need help in this area, read my blog entitled: Settling vs. Settling In.

Be Brave & Bold

What harm is there in starting a conversation with someone or even going out on a few dates? You might find you are more interested than you even imagined, you might make a new friend, or you might meet Mr. Right. You could even meet Mr. Right while at a social event with the guy you are not sure about! The possibilities are endless so be open to them all. Just the other night at my singles meet up group, two of the members sat down next to each other and took a chance by starting up a conversation. They discovered they had so much in common and left that night very excited about the possibilities they saw in each other. If they had not been brave enough to show up to the event, if they had not been bold enough to sit next to each other and talk, they would not have met.

Don’t Judge Too Quickly

I find that sometimes ladies, you are too quick to judge the guy based on looks, his on-line profile, his job, etc. I know you have standards and I do not want you to lower those but I also want you to refrain from judging too quickly. There might be more to him than you can find out on that first date. The perfect man for you might just be different than you expect.

One scenario I see often is a man contacts you initially but doesn’t respond back quick enough. You then decide he isn’t interested. If he doesn’t respond back ever, he isn’t interested. But remember, men and women are different. Women multi task more often than men. In reality, he might not respond back right away because he is busy and not checking his phone or simply waiting until he is back in communication mode to respond. It has nothing to do with you; he is just being a guy. If he does respond back, give him a chance.  If you notice a pattern of this behavior, then it is time to talk to him or let him go if he isn’t the right one.

Now it is time to get out there, learn your core values and deal breakers, be brave and bold, meet new people, and give them a chance. Those initial quirks or differences could turn into things you love about him. Learn to distinguish what is important and what is really just a small thing. The right man for you might be sitting next to you at the next event or might be the next man you email on Match.com. You never know!

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

www.lorianndavis.com

Women Aren’t That Complicated…Really They Aren’t

canstockphoto4561624I hear men say that they wish they understood women better, or they don’t even bother trying because women are crazy!  I work with men who are just getting out of long term marriages or who have been single for a long time and are trying to figure out what women want. I also work with men who are married and are trying to have a happier, healthier relationship but feel like they just can’t do anything right.

Today I am going to help you understand what women truly want. We are not as complicated as you might think, but I will tell you that it will take effort on your part to please her. Sorry, you are going to have to put forth some time and effort.

  • First and foremost, women want love and attention! We want to feel like we are important to you. This takes some effort on your part. It starts at the beginning of dating by pursuing her and continues throughout the whole relationship. Frequently, when women get upset with men, it is because they do not feel like they are a priority. You can show her attention in many different ways. It can be small gifts, planning a date, telling her how you feel, or simply giving her your undivided attention. If you have been together for a while and don’t know what to do, ask her. She will tell you.
  • When you are dating, take charge and pursue her. Be the one to reach out and call her. Ask her out and plan the date; it is ok for her to have some say in the planning as long as you are taking the initiative. Women want men to act in the masculine role and take the lead. If you are in a relationship, don’t stop doing this; continue to take the lead!!
  • Listen to us. Women are by nature communicators. We love to share and feel emotionally connected in this way.  We need to feel heard and understood in relationships. Show concern for what is going on in her life. She will feel bonded to you when you take an interest in her thoughts, concerns, and what is important to her.
  • Do something for us. Guys, helping us around the house or taking a burden off our shoulders is really sexy! Even if you are dating, you can find ways to help her out. Again, this is something you need to continue to do without being asked or reminded. Look for small things you can do to be of service to her.
  • Be present when you are together. That means staying off your phone when you are together. When you are dating, show up on time for the date, make sure she gets home ok, keep in contact in between dates, and plan the next date in advance. For couples, the same rules apply; be on time for dinner and date nights, make time at the end of the day for her, show her you care, and let her know how important she is to you.
  • Intimacy is different for women than it is for men. The important thing to know about women is that intimacy starts in her heart. She needs to feel wanted and beautiful. It takes her longer to become aroused than it does for you.  She needs physical contact with you, but make sure you are touching her at times when sex is not the immediate goal, as well as when it is. So, hold her hand, hug her, snuggle, and kiss her often. Have fun with this and flirt, even after you have been in a relationship for a while. Send texts during the day that are playful and sometimes sexy. Let her know how much you love her and want her. If she is upset with you, you really need to say you are sorry first, before you get physical. For women, emotional and physical connection are much more intertwined.

I hope this has given you some ideas on how to please the woman in your life, or how to attract that special woman into your life.

I am always here to help you if you need some extra guidance. Feel free to contact me for a free strategy session.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

http://www.lorianndavis.com

Secrets to Successful Online Dating Emails

canstockphoto6090759Dating can be difficult, but online dating has its challenges and advantages. On average, 33% or more of couples meet online. If you are single, online dating is a viable way of meeting that ideal partner. I know it can be scary and daunting to think about navigating the world of online dating, but it can be done successfully. I myself am an online dating success story. After 28 years of marriage, I became single. I was not interested in the bar scene and was unsure of how to go about meeting someone new. I worked at home, and all of my friends at the time were married. Online dating seemed like the best option. I learned all I could in order to be successful and jumped in with both feet.  I now work with singles every day in my coaching practice, and online dating is one of the tools I use to help them become a successful single.

I have written a previous post, “Dating Profiles 101,” about how to write your profile. Now that you have a dating profile that will get noticed, it is time to get active and start connecting with potential dates. The next step is to learn how to reach out to them; don’t wait for them to find you. It is ok for both men and women to reach out to each other. This post will focus on how to write an email that will get a response.

It is important to reach out to potential dates with emails for a number of reasons. It lets them know you are a real person who has read their profile, it gets their attention, and it starts a conversation. The perfect match for you might not see you if you don’t reach out to them.  Spend a little time daily, if possible, sending out emails. Sometimes, singles make the mistake of being too picky at this stage. It is better to reach out and discover that you do not want to date them than to never connect. Obviously, I do not want you to contact people you know are 100% not right for you. I do encourage you reach out to people who are in the gray area. Remember, they may not have taken a class or read a blog post on how to write a profile, they might look better in person than in their pictures, and you might have a different opinion of them once you get to know more about them. What does it hurt to send a short email?

Always start with a name, even if it is just their user name. The best emails only address one topic. Look for something in their profile that interests you or a topic you have in common. Never send generic emails. The conversation should be personalized. You can say, “I noticed…..” or “I am curious about…” Always use full sentences and check your spelling and grammar before you hit send.  End the email with a question so they have a good reason to respond.  Sign it with your first name so it feels more personal.  Then pick a subject line that will catch their attention.

Try to check your emails daily and respond back within 24 hours to keep the conversation fresh and moving along. Ask another question or two in a follow-up email and share a little more about yourself. You do not want to email back and forth too long or share too much about yourself. The whole point of these emails is to introduce yourself and get their attention so they want to meet you. After a few emails, the next step should be a phone call or a date. Ladies, if he is emailing you back but not asking you out, it is ok to tell him you would like to meet him. He may be unsure of when to ask you out, so let him know you are interested.

Your homework assignment is to finish that dating profile or redo it if it needs some updating. Then start sending out emails. Don’t worry about the ones that do not reply. Just keep moving forward. The right partner is out there waiting for you, but they cannot find you if you are not visible.

If you would like help navigating the online dating world, please reach out and schedule a strategy session with me. I am here to help.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

http://www.lorianndavis.com

Knowing Your “Why” for Dating

canstockphoto6650940I just finished reading John Maxwell’s, “Intentional Living.” In the book, he talks about knowing your why in life. He says, “Once you find your why, you will be able to find your way.” He goes on to say that the why is your purpose, and the way is your path. I believe the same applies to dating. I teach a class called, “Secrets to Successful Dating,” and the first exercise we do determines your why.

Would you leave on a trip without a destination? Not if you intended to get someplace in particular. The first thing most people do when they get into the car is to put a destination into their GPS. You need a destination in mind in dating as well. This is your purpose for dating which leads you to the path and your final destination. Too many singles date without knowing their why and then become frustrated and may even give up hope.

Knowing your why is the first step. It gives you confidence, determination, and hope to keep going until you find what you are searching for. It is important to be ready to date in order to be successful. It takes the right frame of mind. Frequently, it requires letting go of negative beliefs and thoughts from the past and about the future. Is your life full of anger or disappointment from the past? This will block your path to your future.

Creating a positive space in your life for a partner to fill is essential. Take time to think about your vision of the future including a partner in your life. Why do you need this person in your life? I know that we are sometimes told we should not need a partner. I agree that it is not healthy to look for a partner to fix your life, or to expect a partner to meet all of your needs, or be responsible for your happiness. If you desire a partner, there are things you need from the relationship. Do you need them to have a deep connection with you? Do you need a partner to have a satisfying sexual relationship with? Do you need a partner to raise children with? You get the idea; this partner adds something to your life that no one else does. It is a positive take on needing someone in your life. Envision this need or space in your life that you want to be filled. Then make space in your life for the relationship. Create your vision of the future and let this be your why. Let it guide you along your path to find your special partner. Start and end your day with this vision. When my clients do this exercise, they make small changes in their lives that make a big difference in their success in dating. They might dress nicer, smile more often, have a more positive attitude, flirt more, try new things, and ultimately attract more people into their lives.

Now it is time for you to discover you why. Start by creating your vision of the future. Here is an example from a chapter in my book, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life, to help you.

Exercise

 I want you to think about your ideal life with a partner. You are creating an ideal vision of a deeply satisfying love relationship. Spend some time just jotting down notes and thoughts about what your relationship would look and feel like. Imagine the life you want to live with your partner. What do you want to create and share in this relationship? How will you feel when you are in the relationship? How do you spend time together? How much time do you spend together daily, weekly, or monthly? You might also include ideas regarding family life, finances, friends, careers, spirituality, health, and hobbies.

Now that you have your notes, it is time to come up with a list or a written narrative of your life together. You can do both or just one, whichever feels more natural to you. Some people like to have lists, and others prefer a more free-flowing narrative. Whichever you decide to do, write it in the present tense as if it already exists. Also, write it with positive statements rather than what you do not want. Here are a few examples of statements:

  1. We laugh and have fun together.
  2. We trust each other.
  3. We communicate easily.
  4. We settle differences peacefully.
  5. We share private time together daily.
  6. We share similar parenting philosophies and are good parents.
  7. We have an active and satisfying sex life.

I want you to keep this list close at hand and read it often.

 

Now that you have your why, it is time to start down the path to finding your ideal partner.

If I can help, contact me for a free strategy session.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

www.lorianndavis.com

704-999-1781

Time to do something different?

canstockphoto33609027If you want to get something you have never gotten before, you’ve to do something you’ve never done before.” ~ Celestine Chua

 

Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” ~ Albert Einstein

 

Are you doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results? You might not even realize you are doing the same things over and over, or maybe the problem is not knowing what to do differently.

One thing is for sure, if you are not getting the results you want, you have to do something different.

Are you single and finding that you end up in the same dead-end relationships over and over again? Have you married more than once only to find that the relationships were very similar? Are you single and not getting past the first date or two, or not even getting out to meet potential partners?

Are you married and dissatisfied with your relationship? Do you have the same arguments over and over again? Has the passion gone from your relationship and you don’t know how to get it back? Maybe you just feel like your relationship is in a rut.

 

Be Willing to Change

In order to create the kind of relationship you want, whether that means meeting the right person or changing your current relationship, you must do something different. The first step always is being willing to change. You must realize that you are in a pattern that needs to be broken and then be willing to step out into new territory. This requires letting go of blaming others and being brave enough to move forward.

 

Identify Your Desire

The next step is to identify what you truly want. If you are single, it is time to be clear about what qualities you are looking for in a partner. I do not mean the superficial things like height, hair color, hobbies, and the rest of the laundry list items you might have. I mean the core values of the person that you must have in common for a relationship to work.

If you are in a relationship but not happy, consider what needs to change in order for you to feel connected and loved by your partner. Keep digging deeper until you find what the core issues really are. Don’t keep spending time dealing with superficial items.

 

Identify What Needs to Change

Now that you are clear on what you truly want, it is easier to make the needed changes. Are there things about yourself you need to change? Are you the kind of person that your ideal partner would be attracted to? Are you dating the wrong kind of people because of chemistry or because you like something they represent? You might need to give a different type of person a chance in order to get what you are looking for. Are you being the best partner you can be in your current relationship? One of the first steps to improving a relationship is to make changes in how you treat your partner. Yes, even before they make the changes you would like to see.

Becoming clear about at least one thing you can change is a start in the right direction. You may not know what else to do at this point; that is ok. Start with something simple and go slowly.

 

Follow Through

Intentions are wonderful, but you will not see changes in your relationships if you do not follow through. If you are single, you must get out and meet new people. You might have to join a new group or sign up for online dating. Agree to meet some people that are different from your “type”.  If you are in a relationship, make a list of some things you can do differently, and then actually make it a priority to follow through. I suggest having a vision of how you would like your future to be. Spend some time daily feeling successful in this vision. Then do something each day to move in that direction.

 

Wash, Rinse, Repeat

Periodically review your progress. What have you learned? What changes do you need to make in your plan? What do you need to do less or more of? The more you learn from doing, the closer you get to defining what your true desire and what changes you need to make. Don’t get discouraged if change doesn’t happen immediately. It is a process, and you are always one step closer as long as you are moving in the right direction.

Remember to always align your thinking with your actions. Be observant about the story you are telling yourself and others. If the story is not the one you want to be living, it is time to make some changes.

 

I am aware that this is not always easy, and you might need some assistance. I am always available to help; call me today for your free consultation.

Lori Ann Davis, MA,CRS

Certified Relationship Specialist

www.lorianndavis.com

704-999-1781

10 things to give up to improve your relationship!

canstockphoto17647896Relationships can be challenging. We take two different people with different beliefs, thoughts, and personalities. We put them together and expect them to create a happy life together. Add to the fact that there are so many differences between men and women, and it is a wonder we get together at all. Let’s face it, relationships take work. They are easier to navigate when we know how to do so successfully. Most of us learn a lot of things in school but how to create a long- term loving, healthy relationship is usually not one of them.

In today’s blog, instead of telling you what to do, I am going to talk about ten things I want you to give up in order to have a better relationship.

  1. Stop comparing your relationship to your friends or the ones you see on TV. TV is not reality, yet we can get caught up in the fairytale of how relationships “should” be. If you compare your partner to your friend’s, you can set yourself up for disappointment. Remember, you do not live their life, and you are probably only getting part of the story. Find the good in your relationship and move forward from there.
  2. Stop trying to control your partner. We are unique individuals and have different thoughts, ideas, beliefs, and ways of doing things. In many situations, there is no right or wrong way, just a different way. Learning to love and accept our partner for who they are, including their differences, creates stronger relationships.
  3. Stop blaming your partner for the problems in your relationship. This also means not waiting for them to change to improve your relationship. This takes away your power to positively impact your life and your relationship. When you become the best partner you can be, you elicit the best from your partner as well. In my coaching practice, I will frequently work with just one partner helping them to successfully improve their relationship.
  4. Give up negative talk. This includes what you say to your partner, others and yourself. The thoughts and words you use are powerful! Becoming aware of your words and changing them can be a first step in improving any area of your life.
  5. Get rid of limiting beliefs. Once you look at your words and thoughts, go one step further and look for limiting beliefs that are contributing to those thoughts. What beliefs do you have about relationships that are negative? You might have learned them from your family or your past experiences. It is time to let go of them and replace them with positive beliefs. You cannot make positive changes with negative beliefs.
  6. Stop complaining about all the small things. Then realize that most things are small things. Instead of complaining, make a list of all the things you like about your partner. Once you get into the habit, it is just as easy to focus on what you like. Now take it one step further and tell your partner how much you appreciate them and why.
  7. Stop making excuses and putting off investing in your relationship. I know you are busy with work, children, and all the other priorities in your life. If you want your relationship to continue or to improve, it takes time and effort. Your relationship has to be a priority. Make time for your partner. Learn to understand them better, learn new communication skills, work on problem areas, add more fun to your time together, and make them a priority. Invest in your partnership.
  8. Let go of any resistance to change. If you do the same things you have been doing, you will get the same results. What do you need to change in your relationship in order to grow together as a couple? Start today by doing something small. If you need ideas, I have written a book, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep, and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life. It is full of small things you can do to improve your relationship.
  9. Let go of unrealistic expectations. Know your requirements in a relationship, the essentials you need to build a strong foundation. Focus on those and let go of the rest. Know what issues to compromise on and when it is time to agree to disagree. Take a look at your expectations and make sure they are realistic. Your partner is not responsible for your happiness nor do they have to fulfill all of your needs.
  10. Stop looking behind you and look forward. The past is in the past, and you have a new opportunity every day to create a better future. When you stay stuck in the past, moving forward is impossible. The past provides a great opportunity to learn, but then it is time to let go. I know this can be difficult to do sometimes, and you might need help from a counselor or relationship coach.

If you would like to find out how I can help you with your relationship, contact me to schedule your free strategy session at www.lorianndavis.com.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

 

 

Single for Valentine’s Day

canstockphoto3395841February has arrived, and everywhere you look you see hearts, flowers and the word love, reminding us that Valentine’s Day is near. So what if you are single? How does the idea of Valentine’s Day make you feel? Do you feel excited about the prospect of a new love coming into your life or do you feel sad wondering if there will ever be someone for you?  Holidays, especially one dedicated to love and romance, can be difficult for singles. How do you survive and thrive this Valentine’s Day?

In order to thrive on Valentine’s Day as a single, you need to remember some important truths.

Deserve Love

*Do you feel like you deserve to love and to be loved?  It is important to be aware of how wonderful you are, just the way you are. What do you have to offer a partner? It might be a good time to make a list and review it daily. Take the time to look in the mirror and tell yourself why you are a good catch.

Your Beliefs

* What areas do you need to work on? Be honest with yourself.  If you are harboring limiting beliefs about yourself or about love, now is a good time to release them and replace them with positive beliefs. When you are truly ready for love, it will appear. There is someone special out there for you and finding him/her does not have to be difficult. It does require effort but the journey can be fun!

Relationship Requirements

*Do you know what you require, need and want in a relationship? Are you setting your standards too low and consistently being disappointed because you believe you have to settle? Are you looking for someone who doesn’t exist because you have too many unrealistic requirements? Knowing what is essential for you in a relationship and then being open to who you enter into that relationship with is an important key to finding “the one.”

Ready for Love

*Are you ready and available for love? Singles may need to heal old wounds before they can be ready for love. Past failures can be valuable lessons that allow you to be ready for the next relationship. What emotional baggage do you need to release? What new skills do you need to learn? Relationships do not come with manuals after all. It might be a good time to learn some new skills before you enter into a new relationship.

Open Heart

* Are you ready to take a risk and be vulnerable? You cannot find love and have an Unstoppable Relationship unless you are willing to take a risk. You might have to try new things and get out of your comfort zone. How about looking at dating as a new adventure? Have an attitude of excitement and go out there and try new things. Focus on meeting new people, be open to new experiences and be willing to fall in love.

If you need help in any of these areas, contact me for a strategy session to find out how I can help.

Lori Ann Davis, MA, CRS

Certified Relationship Specialist

http://www.lorianndavis.com